“…how can you console me…?” Job 21:34a

The simple truth is that Job saw right through his visitors. They were supposed to be there to console him. Yet, all they gave him was grief. Offering real sympathy requires real caring – it cannot be manufactured for the moment; and, though one may offer a forgery of concern, the truth will eventually expose the confederate who tries.

Exhausted by the forgery of his friends’ sympathy, Job confronted them again with this query:

“So how can you console me with your nonsense? Nothing is left of your answers but falsehood.” (v.34)

Job’s friends had been exposed for what they really were: gawkers… those who are drawn to the ‘train wrecks’ of others’ lives, to see just how bad the carnage is, so they can speak of what they saw with their own eyes. There was no real effort to comfort and console… no authentic gesture to assist for a period of time in reestablishing Job and his wife… not even any material help to provide the immediate needs of food, clothing and shelter. They were as fake as a three dollar bill – worthless to meet the desperate needs of Job and his wife.

To some people, the ministry of presence comes naturally; while to others, being in the presence of one in great sorrow creates an awkward moment for which they find themselves unprepared. If you should find yourself in such a moment, try placing yourself in the person’s situation and ask, “How can you console me?” In other words, what practical way could you help in the situation? If you discover you are unable to be the source of help, then look for available sources to provide for the felt needs of the one suffering. There is always a real connection between two genuine friends, and the sincerity of one’s sympathy will suffice for a friend in need. Please, don’t try to fake sympathy.

Have a blessed day…